You Can Coach Your Child Through Any Social Situation

— No Psychology Degree Needed

Is your child struggling to make friends?

Do you find that she is mostly alone during social gatherings?

Are there times when your child blurts out comments wanting to be a part of the conversation, but he is not on topic?

Does he know how to create behaviors that are likeable?

How many times have you found yourself sitting in the school’s car line waiting for your child to come out, just hoping and praying he has a smile on his face—thinking that today will be different and he’ll have a good story to tell you about playing with a friend? What about all the times in the grocery store when things didn’t go as planned, during play dates, at a BBQ, holidays, or any social situation?

Some children struggle socially and find it difficult to manage their emotions and create socially positive behaviors. As a parent, you want to step in and make it better. You can’t imagine one more day of frustration and heartache.

But what can you do without the resources needed to teach social skills and motivate your child to change?

You’ve tried all the strategies, right?

There is hope! You are on the front line every day, which makes you the perfect person to help. As a parent, you can learn the skills needed so you too can know how to manage your child’s problem social behaviors in the moment as they are happening.

VIRTUAL PARENT SUPPORT AND EDUCATION GROUP

The Virtual Parent Support and Education Group is a group coaching program developed to achieve a greater impact, more quickly by connecting with other parents who share similar struggles. Participants in this virtual education group will work together with the support and expertise of Caroline Maguire, ACCG, PCC, M.Ed. Throughout the eight educational group sessions, parents will gain a better understanding of their child and how to support them through any social situations so the eventual outcome will be more positive. Caroline’s group coaching program is successful because she doesn’t just tell you how to change things, she teaches you the specifics on how to teach your child, so you ultimately become the coach! The following steps provide an overview of what can be expected throughout the course.

STEP 1

Help the child understand the rules of the social world and how to interpret social cues. Help him look at his social role and help him see that how he acts can how other people treat him.

STEP 2

Understand how to use the coaching communication technique to help improve problem solving and “on the spot” communication with your child.

STEP 3

Participants will walk away with actionable techniques and activities that promote improved self-awareness and will help your child predict how circumstances and actions will affect the emotions of others.

STEP 4

Participants will learn how to use the coaching communication technique to help their child interpret social messages and adapt behavior to be more socially appealing.

Parents will learn to help the child change his social outlook and build a new awareness of what is socially expected. The group will focus on real time coaching communication techniques that parents can use immediately as soon as they encounter a social challenge with their child. Parents will understand how to create cues and prompts to remind children without shaming or embarrassing them. Members will learn the specifics on how to coach their child so they can problem solve, and positively address any difficult behaviors and ultimately, shift the child’s social perspective toward a more desirable outcome.

Social skills coaching helps children learn to manage their own social dilemmas. The coaching model is based on a strong parent-child unit that works together as a team where parents can learn to coach their child through social skills issues anytime anywhere. As coaches, parents will be able to demonstrate positive social behaviors for their children in order to help them better understand how poor behavior can affect others.

8 EDUCATIONAL GROUP SESSIONS INCLUDE:

SESSION 1: UNDERSTAND HOW TO HELP YOUR CHILD CHANGE HIS SOCIAL BEHAVIORS

Children who struggle socially do not know how to change their behavior and often do not understand how their behavior impacts other people. Understand how to determine the most important social behaviors and how to help the child change their social approach.


SESSION 2: COACHING 101

Learn to communicate or coach the child through social dilemmas using open-ended questions, reflective listening, and praise and prompts. Parents will learn how to talk about social dilemmas, and promote social problem-solving through the coaching communication technique. Rather than telling your child, “Don’t do that,” parents will learn how to ask them questions like, “When you would not stop poking him how do you think he felt?” These question starters often bring out the curiosity in children, which leads to self-discovery and clarity about the social world. When children are asked these types of questions, they learn to self-evaluate, measuring their own ideas about their behavior and the social world against their parents'. The combination of openended questions and reflective listening promotes social problem-solving. This coaching process will help parents build the child’s self-awareness and can be used anywhere any time.


SESSION 3: EVERY SOCIAL SITUATION IS A PROBLEM TO BE SOLVED

Learn how to work with your child to build their social problem-solving muscle. Practice bringing the coaching experience to life and to bring the techniques to everyday situations and to promote social problem solving. Using Caroline Maguire’s problem-solving process, the child will be able to look at his actions and understand how others feel about those actions. When the techniques are learned and followed, children will be better equipped to “read” the unspoken rules and the signals or cue that their playmates have sent them about their actions. They will be able to look at that information, make choices and create a better plan on how to react. For instance, a child corrects other people and is the rule police and seems oblivious to his impact, parents will learn on the spot to ask, “How did your friend feel when you corrected him?” And parents will learn to coach the child through analyzing the incident to detect the signals that tell the child the impact his actions have on friendships.


SESSION 4: LEARN TO WALK IN SOMEONE ELSE’S SHOES

Help your child witness his own actions and learn how to walk in someone else’s shoes. Help your child shift his social perspective to develop empathy and to begin to recognize other people’s point of view (perspective taking). By doing this he will gain greater social self-awareness, and will understand that his actions affect other people. Once they learn to walk in someone else’s shoes they can change the messages they telegraph to other people, self-evaluate their behavior, and adapt their behavior depending on the unspoken rules, context, people and situation.


SESSION 5: EMOTIONS AND MELT DOWNS OH MY!

Emotions, over reaction and meltdowns are often a source of struggle for children. This session will feature “on the go” methods to help your child learn to manage emotions and to develop better emotional coping skills.


SESSION 6: READ THE ROOM

Learn how to help your child read the room and interpret social cues by using fun techniques like social spy, YouTube and games. Help your child understand the unspoken rules of any situation. When this method is applied, he can learn to analyze the social rules and become more aware of his own actions, and understanding of how his behavior deviates from those expectations.


SESSION 7: MANAGING PUBLIC DILEMMAS WITHOUT FIGHTING OR TEARS

When things go wrong in public it can be very difficult. When a child is struggling with negative social behaviors in public it is important to learn when to let things go, when to intervene and how to cue the child without causing embarrassment or shame.


SESSION 8: PULLING IT ALL TOGETHER

Create your own plan. With the guidance of Caroline Maguire, you will create a personalized roadmap walking you through the steps learned in previous sessions so you will know what to do and when to do it! Armed with new coaching skills, you will have the confidence to take action when needed!

You Can Coach Your Child Through Any Social Situation

— No Psychology Degree Needed

8 Week Parent Group

Thursday, August 3, 10, 17 and 31 | September 7, 14, 21 and 28

10-11:30 a.m. eastern


$750 for 8 weeks paid in full or 2 payments of $375

On demand price (video download only) $495 or 2 payments of $247.50

Format: Sessions will be recorded

Each group will learn about a topic and there will be plenty of time for questions and answers.

Email Caroline caroline@necoaching.com

for more information, with questions and for other group offerings.